Tribute was written by
a good friend of Carolyn's
Carol Reed passed from this earth November 24th, 1998 at Parkview Hospital
Carol was born on January12th 1943 to Glen and Mary Ellen Egley at Model,
Carol was a teacher's aide at the Colorado Boys Ranch, and also owned and
operated a beauty shop in Swink. She was a member of the 10th and Cimarron
Church of Christ.
Survivors include husband, Mart, of Florence; daughter and son-in-law
Carolanna and Michael Traver of Rocky Ford; foster mother and father, Lloyd
and Lucille Ernst of Clinton, Oklahoma; brother Tom Egley of Nevada; step
brothers Bill Williams of Castle Rock and Rodger Williams; foster brothers,
Larry Ernst of Oklahoma and Randy Ernst of Oklahoma; foster sisters, Dorothy
Coffey of Texas and Thanna Cline of Oklahoma.
William Faulkner once wrote that he "declined to accept the end of man..."
He went on to state that he believed that man would not merely endure; he
believed that he would prevail. Faulkner believed that man is immortal not
because he alone among creatures has an inexhausitble voice but because he
has a soul, and a spirit capable of compassion and sacrifice and endurance".
I know that Carol lives on in Heaven with her God today. We know this not
because of what William Faulkner said but by what the word of God teaches
us. Without a question Carol's soul was filled with compassion and sacrifice
and endurance. It is upon these three main thoughts that I would like for us
to focus on for the next few moments,
COMPASSION, SACRIFICE AND ENDURANCE.
Where did we find
in her life? Everywhere! Those of you here today can in your mind's eye
begin to list your own remembrances of Carol's compassion. The ability to be
a compassionate person is something that one cannot just claim to be.
Compassion is something that must be demonstrated. Carol constantly
demonstated her compassion for family members, the boys and staff members at
the Colorado Boys Ranch, her customers at the beauty shop and her many
friends throughout the Arkansas Valley.
Can one work for sixteen years with troubled youth and not have compassion?
Yes, I suppose a person could. But not Carol. She was filled with a spirit
of compassion. Her compassion had an impact on the lives of many young men
who lived at the Ranch. I am sure, if contacted personally, they would tell
you that Carol always took the time to listen, and to treat and teach each
of them with dignity. Carol not only worked her regular job as an aide but
also took on special projects in the area of drama and art. Creativity was
her special gift from God, and she used it freely to assist and
encourageothers to discover their creativity. How manyof you here today have
a special craft that Carol made for you or a picture she painted or some
other creative expression of love? Hold on to those items. They are a
valuable link in our memories with Carol.
Where do we begin? Carol would not have looked at her life as one of
sacrifice. However, do any of you ever remember Carol saying, " Sorry, I
can't help you with that"? " Sorry, I don't have time to listen to your
problems". "Why don't you ask someone else"..I can't. Those were statements
that Carol was not familiar with. Never once did she decline to assist with
anything that needed to be done at church. Carol assisted with countless
funeral dinners, wedding showers, wedding anniversaries and baby showers. I
never remember a time that she was not teaching a Bible class. She loved
young children and they loved her. Frequently, she took from her vacation
time and went with the church youth group to assist in conducting Vacation
Bible Schools in other communities. Carolanna remembers fondly the
sacrifices that her mom made not just for others, but especially for her.
Carol's greatest desire was to see that Carolanna had a college degree. That
dream was realized, but it took sacrifice. Some even remember Carol and Mart
sacrificing their pet raccoon, just so thet could adopt Carolanna. I fon't
think that Carol or Mart ever thought of that as a sacrifice. Do you? We all
now that she would not think of any of the countless things she did to help
her family or others around her as a sacrifice. To Carol they were simply
acts of Christian love and kindness.
was Faulkner's third prevailing attribute. Carol knew that word well. She
lived a life that was filled with events that testified to her ability to
endure. For over sixteen years she worked two jobs. While working at the
Ranch she ran her beauty shop. First it was called Carol's Cut and Curl and
more recently The Works. Most of us wondered, when did she eat and sleep?
Things were not always good in Carol's life. She had her good times and her
difficult times. We know that it was her unceasing faith in God that carried
her through the rocky times. Carol is looking down upon us today as a
testimony to the words of the Apostle Paul in 2 Timothy Ch 4:7&8 "I have
fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Now
there is in store for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the
righteous Judge, will award to me on that day--and not only to me, but to
all who have longed for his appearing."